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T There is a very specific moment every week when I open my planner, stare at the list of things I confidently promised myself I would finish, and think, wow, I really overestimated myself again. The list is always ambitious. Finish two blog posts. Eat three real meals a day that are not just coffee in different cups. Work out four times. Answer emails like a responsible adult. Become the kind of person who wakes up early and is happy about it. By Thursday I am usually eating a granola bar out of my purse while replying to messages with one eye open, wondering how I let it get to this point. Again. Lately I have been thinking a lot about self-care, and not just the bubble bath version, although I am very much in support of bubble baths. I mean the kind of care that asks bigger questions. The kind that makes you pause and really look at your life and ask, what is actually for me, and what am I carrying just because I think I should? I recently joined a motivational seminar and one idea has been echoing in my head ever since. The speaker talked about having the audacity to go after your dreams, even when you do not feel ready or qualified or totally sure how it will all work out. That word hit me harder than I expected. Audacity. The nerve to believe something good could really be for me. Because here is what I tend to do. I will get excited about something, set a goal, tell myself I am finally going to go all in. And then, almost immediately, I will start quietly talking myself out of it. This blog is the perfect example. I love writing here. I want this space to grow into something real, something that supports me financially, something that reaches people who need to hear they are not alone. And then two days later I will think, who do I think I am? There are already so many blogs. Everyone else is better at this. Maybe I should just be grateful for what I have and stop dreaming so big. But sitting in that seminar made me realize how often I confuse humility with shrinking. How often I mistake being “realistic” for giving up before I have even really tried. Wanting more is not a flaw. It is a form of self-respect. I started this blog because I wanted a place to talk about growing in real ways. Not the perfect Instagram version of growth, but the honest, messy, sometimes confusing kind. The kind where you are trying and failing and trying again, all while wondering if anyone else feels this way too. The truth I keep coming back to is this: what is meant for me is for me. And no amount of bending myself into a shape that pleases everyone else is going to make it any more mine. I am a people pleaser in recovery. I want everyone to be comfortable. I want everyone to like me. I will absolutely say yes to something I do not have time for and then be shocked later when I am overwhelmed. I am working on it, but old habits die hard. Somewhere along the way I started to confuse kindness with self-erasure. As if being kind meant saying yes when I wanted to say no. As if being understanding meant never asking for more for myself. As if taking care of others had to come at the expense of taking care of me. What I am learning now is that self-care is not about letting myself off the hook entirely. It is about holding two things at the same time. Grace and accountability. I tell myself every week to give myself grace when I fall behind on work, when I eat like a toddler, when I skip the gym because I am tired or unmotivated or just plain human. And that grace matters. Beating myself up has never once made me healthier, happier, or more productive. But I am also realizing that kindness does not mean lowering the bar so far that I never have to stretch. It means noticing when I am stuck in patterns that are not serving me and gently nudging myself forward anyway. Sometimes that looks like opening my laptop and writing even when I do not feel inspired. Sometimes it looks like going for a walk instead of scrolling for an hour. Sometimes it looks like choosing a real meal over whatever snack is closest to my hand. It is not about being perfect. It is about showing up for myself in small, boring, consistent ways. I am trying to stay focused on what I want instead of what everyone else expects. I want to build something meaningful here. I want this blog to be a place people come back to, a place that feels warm and honest and helpful. I want to have the audacity to believe that this little corner of the internet could turn into something big. And I am also trying to remember that I do not have to earn rest by burning myself out first. I can work hard and still be gentle with myself. I can go after my dreams and still forgive myself for the days I fall short. Most weeks I will still have that Thursday moment with my planner. I will still roll my eyes at my own optimism. I will still eat a granola bar out of my purse and think, tomorrow will be better. And you know what. Sometimes it is. Here is what I know now. I cannot please everyone. I am not supposed to. My job is not to be everything to everyone. My job is to be honest with myself, kind to myself, and bold enough to keep showing up for the life I want. That is the version of self-care I am choosing. The one that says, I am allowed to want more, and I am allowed to take care of myself while I go after it.

A bowl of grapes for the New Year It’s only a few days into January, and I already feel like this year is asking me to show up differently. Not louder or faster, but more intentionally. On New Year’s Eve, I did something small but meaningful. I ate 12 grapes at midnight, one for each month of the year ahead. It was a simple tradition, but it carried deep intention. Some people blow cinnamon into their doorway to invite prosperity. Others eat black eyed peas or cabbage to welcome luck and financial blessings. Some sit under tables to manifest love or travel. I respect those practices. For me, eating grapes was enough. It gave me a moment to pause, reflect, and speak into what I want for the months ahead. Why I Chose This Tradition I didn’t plan anything elaborate. I didn’t make a vision board at midnight or write out a full goal list. I simply held my grapes, breathed deeply, and let each bite carry a silent affirmation. Every grape represented one month. One goal. One opportunity. That moment reminded me that the most powerful beginnings are the ones rooted in stillness and clarity. I don’t need noise to start strong. I need intention. My Intentions and Goals for 2026 This year I am not chasing chaos. I am creating systems. I am walking in alignment. Every goal I have for this year is backed by discipline, consistency, and faith. 1. Monetize My Blog That Girl Self Care Channel has always been a space for truth, healing, and reflection. In 2026 I am turning this blog into a real income stream. I will pitch aligned brands, write intentional content, explore affiliate marketing, and develop digital products that reflect who I am and what my readers need. 2. Expand My Cleaning Business into Construction Projects I have built my cleaning business with care and consistency. This year I am scaling into post-construction cleaning for new builds and renovation projects. I am ready to take on larger contracts, expand my team, and become known for excellence in residential and commercial spaces. 3. Support Content Creators as an Operational Manager My heart is in systems and strategy. I want to work with content creators behind the scenes, helping them streamline their processes, manage their platforms, and grow their brands with confidence. I will offer virtual assistant services with a clear focus on operations and support. When Ritual Becomes Routine That moment with the grapes reminded me that every intention needs a plan. Every hope needs structure. This year I am beginning each day with purpose. I read my bible. I journal. I speak over my day. I choose focus. I give myself permission to move intentionally and quietly toward everything I want. Small rituals mean something when they lead to daily habits. I do not want hype. I want harmony. The Energy I Am Walking Into This year I am creating space for clarity and progress. I am showing up consistently in my blog, my business, my faith, and my home. I am doing less guessing and more building. My energy is focused. My vision is clear. My work is aligned with the life I am praying for. Twelve grapes did not change my life. But they helped me remember what I want and how I plan to get there. My final thoughts Traditions like eating grapes or blowing cinnamon are powerful because they connect action with intention. Whether you chose one or none this year, know this. You can begin again today. You can create your own rituals. You can set your own pace. My 2026 is beginning with intention, peace, and purpose. I hope yours is too.

Still moments in nature, reflect a quiet soul. It’s only the second day of January, and I already feel the energy shifting. While the world counts January 1st as the official beginning of the year, for me, January is more than a calendar reset. It’s my personal new year, the month where I choose to show up fully, reflect deeply, and reset every part of my life that needs renewal. This month is mine. January feels like a fresh canvas, and I am the artist with new colors and a clearer vision. This is not about rushing to change everything. It’s about intentionally aligning my life with the woman I am becoming. From self care to business goals, from mindset to money habits, I am setting the tone for how I want the rest of 2026 to unfold. A Real New Year Reset for Women Like Me As women, we carry so much. Between motherhood, business, relationships, and everything in between, it’s easy to get lost in the day-to-day. That is why I am using this entire month to slow down, check in, and give myself what I need without guilt. This is my time to rest where I need to and grow where I am called to. It is a full body and soul reset. Every morning, I start my day by reading my bible, journaling, and setting a clear intention. I am not just planning. I am creating space to listen to what God is telling me and align my actions with His voice. This is what a true new year reset for women looks like. It is spiritual, emotional, and practical. My Life Goals for 2026 Are Personal and Powerful This year, my goals are not surface level. I am going deep. I want real transformation in the way I show up for myself and my family. I want growth in my health, in my mindset, in my income, and in my consistency. Here are some of my key life goals for 2026: Take full control of my health by eating better, staying active, and honoring my body with daily movement Stick to a daily spiritual routine that includes reading scripture, writing down prayers, and setting intentions Grow both my cleaning business and my virtual assistant brand with purpose and clarity Post consistently on my blog and share content that reflects my real journey Find aligned brand deals that represent my values and help me create multiple income streams Keep a clear budget, build savings, and make better financial decisions Stay present with my children and create memories that matter I am not just listing these to feel productive. I am creating a lifestyle that allows me to thrive in every area. I want my days to reflect the peace and purpose I say I want. I want my habits to align with the vision I keep praying for. Why Consistency Is My Word for January January is not about going hard for a few weeks and falling off by February. This month, I am choosing consistency over hype. I am committed to posting every single day on this blog. I want to build momentum, not just motivation. Consistency gives me structure. It reminds me that showing up, even in small ways, is powerful. Whether I am posting a short update, a deep blog reflection, or sharing a daily win, it all adds up. I want to be a woman who keeps her word to herself. Creating My Personal New Year From the Inside Out This is not just about external success. My personal new year starts within. I am nurturing my emotional health by journaling. I am investing in my faith by staying rooted in scripture. I am protecting my peace by choosing stillness over chaos. I am becoming more self aware so I can grow without forcing anything that does not align with me. This version of me honors her own needs. She keeps her space clean, plans her meals, shows up for her clients, and rests when needed. She celebrates her wins, no matter how small. She lives with balance, not burnout. This Month Belongs to Me I am taking ownership of January. Not just because it is a new year, but because I deserve to live life with intention. I am creating new routines, exploring new business strategies, and taking better care of myself. Every goal is rooted in love. Every decision is based on alignment. Every day is an opportunity to move closer to the life I have prayed for. If January has always felt rushed or overwhelming for you, I invite you to reclaim it. Make it personal. Set your own pace. Reflect. Breathe. Reset with grace. This month belongs to me, and I am going to make it count.